In a saucepan, over medium heat, add the milk and butter. Season with salt and white pepper. Bring the liquid to a boil. Slowly stir in the grits. Reduce the heat to medium low and continue to cook for about 1 hour or until the grits and tender and creamy, stirring every 10 minutes to prevent the grits from sticking. Add some water during the cooking process if the liquid evaporates to much. Remove from the heat and stir in the cheese. Reseason with salt and white pepper if needed. Set aside and keep warm. In a saute pan, over medium heat, heat the oil. Add the sausage and render for 2 minutes. Add the garlic and saute for 30 seconds. Season the shrimp with salt and black pepper. Add the shrimp and continue to saute for 2 minutes. Remove the pan from the heat and add the sherry. Place the pan back over the heat and flame the sherry, shaking the pan back and fourth several times until the flame dies out. Remove the shrimp from the pan and set aside. Add the stock and bring the liquid to a boil. Reduce the heat to medium low and mount in the butter. Add the shrimp back to the sauce and simmer for 2 minutes. Remove from the heat and stir in 2 teaspoons of the parsley. To serve, spoon the grits in the center of each shallow bowl. Spoon the shrimp mixture over the grits. Garnish with the corn relish and remaining parsley.

Rinse the shrimp heads and shells quickly under cold water, and place them in a stockpot with the remaining ingredients. Bring to a boil over high heat. Reduce the heat to low and simmer for 10 minutes. Turn the heat up to medium and cook for 30 minutes. Allow to cool thoroughly, strain and refrigerate. Keeps for 1 month. Yield: 3 quarts

Put everything but the mustard, turmeric, and corn in a nonreactive pot and simmer for about 5 minutes. Put the mustard and turmeric in a small bowl or teacup and mix together with some of the hot liquid from the pot, then add the mixture to the pot along with the corn. Bring to a boil, then reduce the heat and simmer for another 5 minutes. Pack the mixture into 6 (1/2 pint) sterilized jars, seal, and process in a boiling water bath for 10 minutes. Serve this condiment with poultry, beans or rice. Yield: 6 1/2 pints