Weeknight Potluck Playdates

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Vegetarian Chili; Robin Miller

Photo by: Tara Donne

Tara Donne

Once three o’clock strikes, time seems to go to warp speed. Some days I feel like I’m on autopilot, and that’s not necessarily a good thing. It’s far too easy to get caught up in the monotony of motherhood — it’s okay to admit we don’t love every part, like homework and that whole work-life balance.

For this very reason, I make a conscious effort to not over-schedule my daughters with afterschool activities. I’m a firm believer in letting them have some time to wind down and enjoy the simple pleasure of playing at home. Still, I find myself exhausted come dinnertime these days. I may not be zipping from dance class to soccer every day, but suddenly thrown into single motherhood means I need to find new ways to ensure dinner doesn’t become boring — for me to cook, and for the girls to eat.

What I realize is I need to get back to hosting dinner playdates — hear me out on this one. Sure, inviting another family over for dinner means more clean up, but without the expectation of my husband, Mikey, walking through the door, dinner sometimes feels a little too solemn. Our minds drift to him being gone, as my daughters and I glance at his empty seat. Before he passed away, we were used to eating as just The Perillo Girls because he worked too late to join us. There was always the excitement, though, of hearing his keys jingle at the front door just as we were finishing up, or as we were settling in to read bedtime stories.

Since Mikey often missed weeknight dinners, I’d invite a friend over once a week to have an early dinner playdate with us. The company was welcome, and most of my friends’ husbands work late hours too, so it was a win-win. I’d usually cook the main course, and someone would bring over sides or dessert and, yes, there was wine too. The kids would eat and play, the mommies would eat and chat — this is an example of time flying by in a good way. As we ease into autumn and the nights get longer, I’m going to bring some smiles back to our dinner table and start instituting potluck playdates again. Give it a try for yourself, and you’ll see they really are fun for the whole family.

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Jennifer Perillo is a recipe developer and food writer living in Brooklyn, N.Y. Her recipes and tips for feeding families homemade meals are a regular feature in Working Mother magazine, where she’s the consulting food editor, as well Relish Magazine , Parenting , Kiwi and her blog, In Jennie’s Kitchen.

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