For the wings: Heat the oil in a large (5- to 6-quart) deep heavy pot until a deep-fry thermometer registers 380 degrees F.
Sprinkle the wings with the salt and pepper. Just before the oil reaches 380 degrees, pat dry 6 or 7 wings, carefully lower them into the oil and fry, stirring occasionally, until cooked through, golden and crisp, 8 to 10 minutes depending on the size of the wings. With a slotted spoon, transfer the wings to paper towels to drain. Continuing to work in batches of 6 or 7, pat dry and fry the remaining wings in the same manner, returning the oil to 380 degrees F and replenishing some of the oil if needed between batches.
For the honey-lemon pepper sauce: Combine the butter, honey, lemon juice, lemon pepper seasoning and parsley in a large bowl. Add a third of the wings and toss to coat. Garnish with lemon wedges and chopped parsley if desired.
For the Buffalo sauce: Combine the hot sauce, butter, Worcestershire sauce, pepper, salt and garlic powder in another large bowl. Add a third of the wings and toss to coat.
For the garlic-Parmesan-ranch topping: Put the butter in a large bowl. Combine the Parmesan, garlic powder and ranch seasoning in a separate large bowl. Toss the remaining wings in the butter first, then in the Parmesan mix.
Serve with crudite and ranch dressing on the side.