For the chicken tenders: Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F. Place a wire rack on a sheet pan and spray with cooking spray.
Create a 3-step breading process in 3 separate shallow bowls. Put the coconut flour in the first bowl, eggs and coconut milk in the second bowl, whisked to combine, and panko, coconut, salt and pepper in the last bowl, stirred to combine.
Pat the chicken dry and add it to the coconut flour, shaking off any excess, then dip it in the egg mixture, making sure to coat the chicken entirely. Lastly, lay the chicken in the panko mixture, turning it over and pressing into the breading to coat evenly. Place on the wire rack. Spray the chicken with additional cooking spray. Bake until golden brown, 18 to 20 minutes. (See Cook's Note.)
For the dipping sauce: Whisk together the chutney, yogurt and jalapeno in a medium bowl.
To serve this as a salad, combine the iceberg, carrots, tomatoes and red cabbage together in a bowl. Whisk the apple cider vinegar into the mango dipping sauce to make a dressing. Lightly dress the salad with the mango dressing. Top with the coconut chicken and serve.
If the chicken is light in color, place it under the broiler for the last 2 minutes of cooking time.